Victim. Victorious.

Yesterday when I received my reminder email for my next blog I nearly fainted! Has it been a week already? Time sure does fly when you’re having fun!

In my previous blog I wrote about bullies and their manners and how cowardly they can be, but what about the victim? What makes you a victim? Is it being bullied, or is it allowing someone to bully you that makes you a victim and how do I get from this victim mindset into a  victorious mindset? When you are being bullied you eventually start to believe the things that are said to and about you. you even start believing that you deserve what is being done to or taken from you. IT’S NOT A POSITIVE PLACE TO BE IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU NEED TO GET OUT!!! I have also noticed that bullies tend to camouflage themselves as victims, when they are confronted about the negative things that they do they simply do not own up to their deeds and play the victim card. When someone does that, it’s a way of manipulating them out of the hot seat and if you are the one confronting this person and you do not have someone to back you up you will lose the war and not just the battle. A bully will never walk alone. He/she will always be in a crowd. He/she will always have someone to back him/her up if you were to stand up to them. Speaking from experience of having been in the victim chair, it’s all about mind shifting. Shift your negative thoughts to positive. Easier said than done, I know, but you’ll thank me for it.

Say for instance this bully throws a punch at you, it could be physical, emotional, or even through social media. Immediately your mind will tell you to back off, run away, hide…. But you should do what this person will NOT expect… YOU PUNCH BACK!! If it’s a physical punch rather work out and train throwing a punch… You’ll have to take a few hits first, but it will be totally worth it when someday you surprise that person and knock them out! Same goes for emotional or social media punches. Get your stuff and facts together first. Be intelligent about it.

In the meantime here are a few practical things you could do to change your mindset from being a victim to being victorious:

1. Pick your head up. Victims walk with their heads down facing the ground and slouching their shoulders. YOU, should face the world right in the eyes with your shoulders pulled back and walking upright. That way you are telling your bully you are nOt afraid.

2. Know who you are in Christ. Actually this point should be first. Who are you in Christ? You are the son/daughter of the most high King of Kings. Eternity belongs to you. YOU, are more than a conqueror through Christ who strengthens you.

3. Know who loves you. Your mom loves you. For me that is reason enough to conquer the world! God loves you! He loves you so much that He sent His only Son more than 2000 years ago to die for your sins of today.

4. Face your fears! No matter how scared you are to face this person, stand up! If you do not stand up for yourself who will? The only way to stop this nonsense is to stand up and face it. Attack and do not back off!

Never allow people to walk over you. Never allow people to tell you, that you are worth less than Jesus dying for you. Never allow people to lie to you. Never allow people to use and abuse you. NEVER back down.

Hope this blog has inspired you to be the perfect you, that you can be. That’s what God intended for you to be. Do not be conformed to this world, but be changed through the renewal of your mind. God has put great potential in you and He wants to see you scceed. He wants to see you joyful, and not just happy.

Anyone can steal your happiness, but NO-ONE can steal your joy, because that’s what God gives you. – Joyce Meyer

Have a positive week! BE VICTORIOUS!

Much Love x  


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